Comfort Zone: Why it’s hurting you and tips for stepping outside of it.
I stepped out of my comfort zone and it changed my life! Here is my story and how you can do the same!
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“The life of your dreams is just outside of your comfort zone”.
Today I’m going to chat a little bit about something that I have done recently that has just made me SO much happier than I ever thought I would be. I stepped outside my comfort zone and man did it feel refreshing!
For a long time, I’ve kind of been living in a bubble. I would say ever since I became a mom, I really toned down my life and got into a routine. A pretty boring one if I do say so myself. I have been in full mom mode and while it has been a rewarding experience, my kids are getting older now and I am starting to feel younger and I have more desire to do things that I haven’t done in years.
Recently though, I sort of accidentally did something out of my comfort zone and Ill get into that a little bit later but first, I want to talk about comfort zones and why they can actually be bad for you.
‘Comfort Zone’ is defined as the temperature range within which one is comfortable.’
Easy enough, but what does that really mean? When you really think about it, you comfort zone is a sort of wall, or boundary that we place on ourselves. I want you to take a second and think of the last time you told someone “I would never do that.” I find myself saying it all the time in response to several things. But I most recently said it when my hairstylist mentioned she was taking her daughter ziplining for her birthday. Once I got home, I thought to myself, how toxic am I to my own self?. By shutting things down, I’m missing out on opportunities to expand myself as a person and it’s just plain toxic.
So here’s where I recently stepped outside of my comfort zone and it really brought me so much joy, and honestly this might be something that you do all the time…Are you ready? I partied. Yes! I partied with my friends!
Ok so here’s the tea. I have a bestie whom I have known for decades. But 11 years ago, before I had my kids, we used to party-HARD. And I’m sure that we all have in the past but once I had my kids, I completely gave up the partying life to be a good mom. For years I spend weekends at home watching Disney movies with the kids and playing games. I never really cared about partying. And over the years when my friend would invite me to a party I would show up, stay for a couple hours and then go home because I was just so used to that lifestyle.
Well now my kids are 10 and 7 and I got invited to another party at my besties house. This time, it was a surprise birthday party for her older sister whom I love very much. I gathered my family and we arrived at the party honestly now knowing how the night would go. The party started at 4pm, and we were going to have burgers on the grill for dinner. I love cookouts so I knew we would have fun. There was another girl there around my kids live and this house we were at is a gorgeous river front property with tons of land and tons of room for kids to play-without me being worried about them. Shortly after we arrived the girls were off playing, and I only saw them occasionally when they were playing hide and seek.
We had dinner and then it started getting late. About 9pm the adults started taking shots.Now I don’t drink at all, so I was sober the entire night. And just so you know…being the only one sober when everyone else is completely wasted is absolutely the most entertaining thing ever.
Anyways, my kids would show up and I would ask them if they were tired and ready to go home and they said no. My husband was mingling with other people and some more old friends that I only see maybe once a year were also at the party. They started talking about some wild stuff we have done in the past and we all started laughing hysterically. (If you know anything about me, you would know that I love to laugh and honestly feel like it really is the best medicine). I was having SO much fun.
Before I knew it, it was 10:30 pm and there were still plenty of people hanging out drinking and laughing together. My girls were running all over the place playing freeze tag and eating some of the left-over veggies. They still weren’t ready to go home so I was fine with it.
Shortly after 11pm, I was told that a guy at the party was going to do a seafood boil by the garage. Corn, shrimp, potatoes, sausage, and other things that I can’t remember. My husband loves these boils and it smelled so good OF course we had to stick around. At 11:30, we had a second round of food, so delicious and such southern vibes honestly. Kids were still going strong, husband was happily drunk, and I am honestly having the time of my life.
We ended up leaving at midnight because It was getting super late and we had a 40-minute drive home. We made it back just before one and the next day the kids told me how much fun they had.
My partying experience really opened my mind after it has been closed for way too long. I haven’t felt that happy and refreshed in a while and I just wanted to go back and party again!
I’ve also started watching Will Smith’s show on Facebook watch called Will Smith’s bucket list.It’s an awesome show documenting Will checking things off his bucket list that are out of his comfort zone. It’s a freeing feeling to so something that you wouldn’t normally do, and I highly encourage you to do the same!
Here are some tips for stepping out of your comfort zone:
Understand that by doing this, you will open yourself up to a realm of possibilities. This could potentially change your life and the way you think, so take it seriously.
You have to be ready to take risks, even if they are small ones at first.
Identify what is outside of your comfort zone.
If you think long enough, I’m sure you can come up with a few things that are outside your comfort zone. Every time you catch yourself telling yourself or someone else “I would never do that, write it down so you can tackle it later (or something similar).
If possible, introduce these things little by little until you become more comfortable. For example, I am terrified of doing Instagram stories, or any kind of video content. I’m afraid of showing my face in video form. After months of convincing, I actually posted my first video story a few days ago and it wasn’t as bad as I thought!
Here are 5 easy ideas for stepping out of your comfort zone.
•Try a new food
•Wear an outfit that you’ve always wanted to wear but you haven’t been confident enough.
•Try a new activity on the weekend such as hiking, ziplining, or something like that.
•Travel to a location you wouldn’t normally choose.
•Change up your daily routine.