Hello Beautiful! My name is Victoria and I used to hate my life.
My life wasn’t even horrible, to be honest. I was having typical struggles that many Americans have.
I was working a lot and still didn’t have any money or anything to show for it, I didn’t really have much of a purpose in life or a plan, I didn’t know what I was doing really I was just kind of..surviving I guess.
I knew that I wasn’t reaching my full potential in life, I just didn’t know exactly what to do to get myself where I knew I wanted to be.
I’m not sure what exactly triggered a major mindset change but one day I just got sick of living a miserable life and I decided to make it better and never look back.
Fast forward to today, I am the happiest that I have ever been. I feel like I am becoming a better version of myself every day. I’m adulting more, I am becoming more classy, elegant, a total girl boss, and I’ve gotten some awesome financial education. I don’t live paycheck to paycheck, I don’t stress about money anymore, I am starting to travel more and honestly I never thought life would be this way for me.
I have plans for my life, set goals for myself and my family, and it feels damn good.
That is what brings me here with you today. I know what it feels like to be lost in life and I also know how to turn it around, but it took me a lot of hard work, sacrifices, lifestyle changes and mindset changes to get me where I am today.
I just want to share a few of these changes that I made and I hope that they can help you start your journey to a life that you don’t need a vacation from.
I stopped making excuses and started taking action
You want to know the biggest thing holding me back? ME.
I was miserable for the first seven years of my 20’s. Every single day I would think to myself
I can’t wait to turn 30 because I just want to make my 30’s an incredible new chapter
It was great that I was being optimistic about my future, the problem was that I had no intention on fixing the present. I was assuming my problems would eventually go away by the time I was 30. I was a constant ball of negative energy and toxicity.
- I complained about my money situation.
- I never made an effort to change my life.
- I spent more time talking about the negatives than about positives
- I constantly held myself back in every way that I could
So the first thing that I changed on this journey? I decided that I was going to stop whining and make a change. I was so tired of living a miserable life every day. I wanted to be happy and healthy and I wanted to thrive in life. In the past I just felt like I was surviving, not living.
I took the idea of my life getting better in my 30’s and threw it in the trash. I decided I was going to make a change, and I was going to make it now. There would be no stopping me.
No one could make that decision for me. So I’m telling you that you might read this post, and you might not have hit your rock bottom yet, maybe you aren’t ready to leave your entire life behind and start over, maybe you aren’t ready to face your problems. I know this because I was there. But one day, (if today isn’t that day) You will wake up and decide that you are done.
I removed toxic habits from my life.
I didn’t realize how many toxic things I was doing on a daily basis. I think that technology has us really distracted and it is very hard to stay on track with what we really should be doing. I know it was a huge factor in why I wasn’t growing as a person. Aside from that, there were many other things that I was doing that wasn’t healthy for me at all. Here’s a very tiny list of toxic habits that I had to quit (and some of them I still battle today)
- Binge watch Jerry Springer (I’m so embarrassed to admit this. because it is the legit trashiest show of all time).
- Not reading or expanding my knowledge in any way
- Watching gossip channels on youtube
- Binge watching true crime stories on youtube (they gave me nightmares)
- Always saying negative things about money
- Not having any kind of plan at all for my life
- Spending too much time on social media
Looking back, I really can’t believe I would go days, weeks, months without reading even one page of a book. I can’t believe how negative I was towards money and success, I can’t believe how much I limited myself. It’s something that I only realize now looking back, but I had no idea how much bad off I was back then. I thought everything was ok and I was doing everything I could. WRONG. All wrong.
Perhaps the biggest reason why I wasn’t making any progress in life was because I had such a small, closed mind. It was so unhealthy I don’t understand how come I didn’t realize how much I was hindering my own personal growth.
My mind was unhealthy because of what I put in it every day. I listened to extremely devastating, brutal, scary, and violent true crime stories certainly weren’t filling me with positive and happy thoughts. Watching the trashiest people drag each other by the hair and argue on stage on Jerry Springer wasn’t good at all…How in the world was I supposed to grow as a person and better myself when I filled my mind with trash?
I ended up doing my first mental cleanse and let me tell you, they are pretty hard to do. Breaking toxic habits that you’ve had for a long time takes a lot of work, a strong mind, and tons of dilligence. I’m not going to lie, I still watch some true crime stories. I can’t help it. I just like them a lot and they keep me entertained. But I would love to quit them altogether.
Think of your mind as a box. Now, think of the things that you put in your mind in the box…So for me…picture a dead body, a poor person, two people fighting, a sad person…UM…TOXIC MUCH?
It really puts things in perspective when you put it that way. But now that I’ve cleansed my mind, there is a lot more positive than negative. My mind box right now looks like this… Picture a huge stack of money, a dream house, an airplane and taking trips, and a fit person (because I started working out). SO. MUCH. BETTER right? The power of the mind is not a joke, people.
I created a vision board, and set attainable goals.
I’ve always been a list maker. I rely on lists to manage my entire life. It’s the best way to keep organized and make sure I am completing tasks. I had always done a great job at writing down my goals and making sure that I got them accomplished with a list.
When I saw vision boards for the first time, I didn’t really care about them because I figured that making a list would continue to work just fine. After like 3 years of being in denial, I finally made my first vision board at the end of 2018. It is currently October 2019 and I can proudly say that I completed all but one thing from my vision board and that was out of my control.
Having images that represented what I wanted to accomplish in life was the best thing I could have done for myself. I personally created a digital vision board and then set it as my lock screen on my phone. The reason why I set it as my lock screen is because I look at my phone all the time so seeing my vision board would be a constant reminder of the goals that I need to be accomplishing. Well, it worked. And I’m about to create my vision board for 2020!
Making these changes along with many more major life changes really had a positive impact on my life. I have never felt better and I am so proud of how far I’ve come. It’s so important to understand that you are the only person that is in control of your life. You are the only person who can change your life.
Thank you so much for reading.